The hardest part about a long distance relationship
If you’re in a long distance relationship, you’ll know: saying goodbye never really gets easier. The joy of being together is quickly replaced by the weight of parting again, and it can feel like a tough emotional shift every single time.
In this blog, I’m sharing a few things that help make our goodbyes feel just a little more manageable.
No good in goodbye
You’ve waited weeks to see each other, spent the time making memories, enjoying each other’s company, and settling back into a version of “normal” — and then, just like that, it’s time to say goodbye again. The return to distance can feel like a crash, even when you know it’s coming.
I feel lucky that my boyfriend and I usually manage to see each other every one or two months, but that doesn’t make the goodbyes any easier. The quiet car rides home from the airport still hit just as hard. That’s why we’ve found small ways to make this part of long distance life a bit more bearable.
1. Plan the next visit (or at least talk about it)
One thing that helps is planning ahead. Before we say goodbye, we try to set a rough date for the next time we’ll see each other. Even if we don’t book anything, just having a weekend in mind gives us something to look forward to. It adds a bit of hope to the sadness of parting.
Can’t book yet? Schedule a virtual date
Sometimes travel isn’t possible — whether it’s due to time, money, or other responsibilities. When that happens, we make sure to plan a proper online date instead. Not just a quick call, but something more intentional: watching a film together, cooking the same recipe, or just setting aside time for a longer catch-up. It helps break up the distance and gives us something to enjoy in the meantime.
2. Reflect on the visit
When we’re on the way to the airport, we make it a habit to talk about the highlights of our time together. It might sound simple, but ending the visit by remembering the best parts creates a more positive final memory, rather than letting the goodbye overshadow the entire trip.
3. Leave something small behind
Leaving something small behind for your partner can be surprisingly comforting. It doesn’t have to be anything big — a short note, a small gift, or even a shared playlist. It’s a small gesture that can bring a smile on the harder days that follow.
Goodbyes are difficult, and it’s okay to feel that. Let yourself be sad for a moment. It doesn’t mean you’re not strong it just means the relationship means something to you. A few emotional days are a normal part of long distance, and they’ll pass. You’re not alone in this.
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